My father-in-law moved in with us. It's hard for me. What should I do?translated

Reader question:

We have been living with my husband for 4 years, a child was born a year ago. The husband's father left his common-law wife and went on a drinking binge. My husband took him to us for a while. He feels better, but he doesn’t leave, dictates the rules, and is indignant that I help my mother (she lives alone). It’s stressful at home, they demand that I, in addition to household chores, meet my father-in-law’s requirements. It’s hard with a child; I have no energy in the evening. I told my husband that I couldn’t live like this, it would lead to divorce. He replies that he cannot kick his father out. I'm afraid that my father-in-law will decide to stay forever. This will be too much for me. What to do?

Natalya

Priest's answer:

Priest Victor NIKISHOV

God bless you!

Your situation is really difficult: on the one hand, there is a physical burden of caring for so many people, on the other hand, there is a moral strain, when a guest, even a relative, dictates his own rules on your territory. The Apostle Paul writes: “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ” (Gal. 6:2). Here it is worth thinking about whether it is really important and necessary to bear the burdens that have fallen on you, and whether they are unbearable.

You should initiate a calm conversation with your husband and explain that you cannot bear the burden of not only...