The wife died. Loneliness is hard. How to establish contact with children and grandchildren?translated

Reader question:

My wife died of cancer 2.5 months ago. Daughters and granddaughters live separately. The granddaughters almost never call or visit, although they were attached to their grandmother: she fed them delicious food, helped them with their homework, spent time with them, went shopping, bought something, gave them a little money, often called them and their daughters on the phone. Now that she is gone, they have nothing to talk to me about. I cannot give them all this except money, for which they politely thank me and forget me. The youngest daughter calls often, but she is far away. The eldest rarely, although she is nearby: she comes only on business and for a short time, trying to leave quickly, she does not even offer to cook food. While I go to work and am somehow distracted, the work is physical, and while working, I still think about my departed wife and my loneliness. When I come home to a lonely apartment, I feel sadness and pain from the loss of my wife and my entire previous way of life.

Yuri

Priest's answer:

Priest Victor NIKISHOV

God bless you!

You write that now that your wife is gone, your granddaughters have nothing to talk about with you. In my opinion, based on what you wrote, the granddaughters were attached to their grandmother not only because she fed them and gave them...