Everyone smokes, but I don't. How not to feel like a black sheep?translated

Reader question:

Hello, father. I’m 36. I feel like a black sheep, because almost everyone around me smokes, but I don’t. It has already become a complex. I found out that a very good friend also smokes openly at work. I was truly disappointed and it still hurts a lot. She was an ideal for me: an excellent specialist, an exemplary family, and very kind and honest, communication with her was very important for me. I couldn’t imagine her smoking, but here... I have a negative attitude when people smoke at the entrance to a store or beauty salon where they work. In my opinion, this is not the best way to meet clients. Or am I just jealous that I can't afford it? How to reconcile, how to overcome the pain of disappointment? It turns out that for my friend I am also a black sheep. I’m very worried, I avoid the meeting, I come to another shift. This is very stupid, but I feel like I’ve been betrayed, like I’ve lost a like-minded person, or something. Help please.

Asya

Priest's answer:

Archpriest Andrey EFANOV

God bless you, dear Asya!

In general, your question is from the field of psychology, not spiritual life. And it should be addressed to a psychologist. I will outline some points, and then you...