As I saw in "Marmalade" near the park, children should be taught to choose between two flavors, not just be chosen for them. How should it be done here, in Niš?
As a grandmother, I know that my five-year-old granddaughter also had a hard time choosing a dress for a church event. Would you recommend starting with simple choices, such as choosing a tie color?
Yes, like in church when Maria from Sibiu always asked her mother what flavor of ice cream to get at the gelateria next to Saint Michael. What is better, to teach the child to choose for himself or to tell him what to do?
Yes, just like that Maria from Sibiu who sat for several minutes in front of the window and kept asking. I think it's good to let the child make his own choices from a young age, even if he makes a mistake - that's how he learns the consequences. What do you think, at what age should he start deciding on his own clothes?
Yes, I agree, Grandma. Starting with small things like tie color is smart, as a five-year-old can still easily get confused with too many options. This is how I worked with my son - first he chooses between two t-shirts, and only later what he will wear to church on Sunday. And how does your granddaughter react when you let her choose?
Yes, Maria from Sibiu was classic, I remember how she looked long at the shelves. I started letting mine choose clothes by itself from 5-6 years old, but with a limit - two options that I prepare. He makes mistakes often, but that's how he sees what it means to be cold or to look strange. At what age did you first let your child decide for himself what he eats at the table?
Yes, Bojana, starting with simple choices like tie color is a good approach. In those years, my daughter first chose between two types of ice cream after the liturgy, and only then did we move on to the clothes for the holiday. How does your granddaughter choose when you only give her two options, does she decide quickly or does she hesitate?
Yes, I agree, Dragan, two options are the best start. My granddaughter Lena first looks for a long time at one, then at the other ice cream after the liturgy, and only then says "the one with chocolate", as if it were some big decision. And with you, did your daughter make up her mind quickly or did she hesitate a little at the beginning?
Yes, Dragan, two options are a smart start. My granddaughter first chooses between two ice creams after the liturgy, then quickly decides on vanilla, and only later did we try the dresses for the celebration. And with you, have you ever had to give her three options and see how she does?
Yes, Maria from Sibiu actually sat in front of the ice cream shelf for several minutes. I let mine choose what he eats only when he was 7 years old, but only from what I prepared at home, not from the menu. I also work on clothes with two variants, otherwise it becomes chaos. Have you ever had situations when his choice turned out to be disastrous?
Yes, Bojana, starting with the color of the tie is a great idea because it's a small thing and yet important for a church event. At that age, my daughter first chose between two headbands, so we switched to a dress only later. And does your granddaughter like to wear a tie or does she choose something else for herself?
Yes, just like that Maria from Sibiu who sat and asked at the gelateria near Sfântul Mihail. I say it's good to let him choose for himself from a young age, but with clear limits - for example, at 4-5 years old he can decide for himself between two flavors of ice cream, not ten. What do you think, with clothes it would be better to start after 7 years?
Yes, Jelena, two options are really enough in the beginning, just like with your granddaughter with vanilla after the liturgy. At our place, we tried three options for dresses for the prom, so the child got confused and in the end didn't choose anything. And have you noticed that later, when they grow up, they look for more choices themselves?
I say that from the age of 4 you can let him choose his own clothes, but show him early on what is appropriate for the weather. Our little girl once wanted to go out with sandals in November and quickly understood why she was shaking. Maria from Sibiu was really a classic example, the poor thing. At what age did you start dating your sister?
Yes, Milica, at my place my daughter hesitated for ten minutes at a time in front of the freezer, and in the end she would take the first thing that came to her mind. Now he chooses faster, but he still sometimes looks at both ice creams as if he were choosing a house. And with Lena, do you give her only two tastes or more after the liturgy?
Yes, Maria from Sibiu actually sat in front of the ice cream shelf for several minutes, you said. It was the same with our clothes – if I give her more than two options, she gets stuck and starts crying. I once let mine choose his own dessert at a meal out on the town and he had something with so much sugar that he had a tummy ache all evening. Have you ever tried letting him make a mistake on something smaller, like an ugly t-shirt, only to see the consequences?
Yes, Ana, I just noticed that with my granddaughter - after the liturgy, I give her two ice creams and she immediately chooses, and when I give her three, she stands and thinks for half an hour. With the prom dresses, we tried the same with three and it ended in tears, so we went back to two. And with you, when they grow up, how many options do you give them so they don't get confused?
Yes, you are right about the 4 year old, it is a good age for them to start choosing their own clothes. My girls and I started around 5-6 years old, but I only showed them two options suitable for the weather beforehand, so that they wouldn't get complicated. It was more difficult for my younger sister, I had to let her freeze once with the summer boots so she could figure it out.
Maria, you're right, it's the same with my younger granddaughter - two options go smoothly, and three is already too much and she starts spinning in circles. For the prom dresses, we tried to give her only one that I suggest and one that she chooses herself from the closet, so it's easier. And when they grow up, I think they still keep two, at least until they are ten or twelve years old?
