Should I marry my ex-husband?translated

Lyubov ALYUKOVA

existential psychologist

Divorce is almost always perceived as a final and irrevocable point. It seems that bridges have been burned, things have been moved, and the future together is forever in the past. But time passes, acute emotions subside, wounds heal, and suddenly he appears again - your ex-husband. He cares, says the right words, admits old mistakes and offers to start over. A whole storm of mixed feelings rises inside: warmth, joy, nostalgia, but also a paralyzing fear of stepping on the same rake again. Doubts arise inside: “What if he really has changed? Maybe we should give our relationship a second chance? In this article, we'll look at why we're drawn to ex-partners, the hidden pitfalls of getting back together, and what can help us make an informed decision.

It's natural to want to return

The first thing a woman who is thinking about returning to her ex-husband may encounter is a huge feeling of shame and fear of condemnation. Your friends will roll their eyes, saying, “Have you forgotten how much you cried because of him?”, your mother will clutch her heart, and your own inner critic will mercilessly accuse you of being weak-willed. And now you are scolding...