I am caring for my brother (stroke). He sends obscenities. What should I do?translated

Reader question:

Hello. My brother drank a lot, because of this he had a stroke. Mom is 78 years old, she could not care for him. I temporarily left my job and spent 22 days in the hospital with him, day and night. My brother’s leg and arm were paralyzed; I lifted him and suffered a fracture of the pelvis in two places. The pain was terrible, I was on painkillers for 7 months. With such pain, I took care of both my brother and my mother (she also had a stroke). But my brother didn’t like the way I looked after him, he constantly cursed at me. At first I cried, then I snapped, but now I’m used to it. I am tormented by the question: how, from the point of view of Orthodoxy, should I treat what he sends obscenities? He deliberately brought himself to this state, and now requires care. But I have my own life - because of him, I switched to 0.5 rates and instead of gratitude I get mate. What to do in such a situation?

Inna

Priest's answer:

Archpriest Andrey EFANOV

Hello, Inna!

First of all, Orthodoxy calls not to expect gratitude for your good deeds: “But you love your enemies, and do good, and lend, not expecting anything; and you will have a great reward, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He is good and...