The husband doesn’t want to leave and doesn’t want to leave his mistress. What should I do?translated

Reader question:

Hello. I found out about my husband’s betrayal for many years: he loves someone else, the betrayal is both physical and emotional. I kicked him out and filed for divorce. He doesn’t want to leave his family, but he can’t break up with his mistress either. Everyone suffers: children, parents, relatives - everyone wants to save the family. But how can I live with him, knowing that the betrayal will not stop, that he loves someone else and will continue to cheat? Should I sacrifice myself for the good of others?

Marina

Priest's answer:

EFANOV Andrey, archpriest

God bless you!

Dear Marina, of course, sounds very lofty: she sacrificed herself for the good of her loved ones, gave her whole life for the peace of her parents and children. But behind these words there is a decision that not every person can bear: to endure the permanent betrayal of a spouse, to know that he loves the other with both heart and body, but to continue to live with him. The consequence of this will most likely be complete emotional burnout, depression and, as a result, mental and physical illnesses. Is it worth it?

Your parents are older than you, and it is likely that after some time your marital status will no longer be so important to them. The children will grow up and have...