My husband is on duty, three children, a baby in my arms. I'm breaking down from fatigue. How to deal with anger?translated

Reader question:

Good afternoon My husband and I have three children: a 13-year-old daughter, a 9-year-old son, and a 10-month-old youngest daughter. I am losing contact with my eldest daughter: she has become very independent, after school she sits in her room, does not want to communicate or spend time with her family, and loves solitude. The girl is smart, studying at 4 and 5 grades, and has been doing ballroom dancing for eight years. The relationship with dad is good, but she is more demanding of me, she can argue, disobey, and says that I am evil. I spend all my time with my youngest child, my husband works shifts, and I am left alone with the children for a month. They don’t want to help, I fall off my feet, I can’t control myself, I break down, get angry, swear, grumble that I also need rest and help. I understand that it’s my own fault: I did everything around the house myself, didn’t teach them anything, but now I demand it. How to deal with anger? I hate myself for this. How to find a common language with children? They are good for me, for some reason it just happens that way.

Galina

Priest's answer:

Priest Victor NIKISHOV

God bless you!

When a person doesn’t get enough sleep for months, doesn’t have a moment of silence, can’t even eat in peace, the nervous system works to the limit. Therefore, your irritation or anger is...