The husband ignores my requests, questions, and personal needs. What should I do?translated

Reader’s Question:

Greetings!

Could you please advise what to do if the husband regularly ignores my requests and questions, and pays no attention at all to my personal needs? It's as though he is deaf when I ask for help or just want to talk to him.

Psychologist’s Answer:

Living with a person who ignores your requests can be even more painful than living in constant conflict. At least during an argument you can respond to the shouting, but silence leaves no room for conversation. If such a life is difficult for you, your pain has every right to exist, and advice like "just endure it" does not apply here.

The husband's silence itself conveys a message. When someone regularly fails to respond, this too is an answer, though its meaning needs to be deciphered. Behind such behavior may lie hurt feelings, exhaustion, anger, or indifference. Therefore, the task changes. The question is not about how to make him listen, but what exactly he is telling you through his silence.

Your letter is brief, and I know little about your family situation. So, let me return a few questions for observation. Has this behavior always been present or did it start recently? If it started recently, what happened just before it began? Does he ignore only you or also…