I’m 23, he’s 29, we’ve been dating for three months. It's hard to abstain. Is it possible to get married already?translated

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Hello, father! My name is Anastasia, I'm 23 years old. I am dating a young man, he is 29 years old. I am a believer and a churchgoer, I try to attend church. He believes in God, but does not believe and does not go to church. We've only been dating for 3 months. At the very beginning, I said that I would not live together before marriage and there would be no intimacy either, I explained that in Orthodoxy this is a sin. He accepted my principles, said he respected them and would tolerate them. We manage to abstain from the sin of fornication itself, but, unfortunately, there were fornication touches. I regret this. I talked with a young man, talked about my experiences, that this was a mistake, it was wrong, I didn’t feel good in my soul after this. He believes that this is not a sin, arguing that we love each other and that “we don’t sleep.” She has raised the topic of marriage with him more than once, saying that intimacy will be acceptable in marriage. He also wants to get married, but says he needs to wait. The question is finances. I told him that I don’t have to get married, we can just get married modestly. He also says to wait.

He believes that every girl wants a wedding, and not just a wedding. I understand his desire to wait, because he is currently paying off a loan for a car...