How to stop self-deprecation and learn to accept yourself?translated

Natalya OSININA

Psychologist, graphologist, psychotherapist

“I hate myself! How could I do this?!” - these words sound like a scream in which there is so much pain that you can almost physically feel it.

This is exactly what the young man said who came to the reception completely crushed. Smart, talented, graduated from school with a gold medal, he could not imagine that he would become an easy prey for scammers. The scheme was simple: they frightened him, calling themselves FSB officers, paralyzed his will and forced him to give up all the money and valuables from his parents’ house. He did this, sincerely believing that he was saving those closest to him. And when the “worry” cleared, the guy was horrified by the scale of what had happened - and, considering himself the only one to blame, he brought down the full force of his anger on himself. For him, honest and decent, his own vulnerability became unbearable. He could not forgive himself for “getting caught so easily and stupidly.” Something broke in him, and soon this internal cruelty towards himself developed into depression.

“I will never forgive myself for this, I am a terrible mother! You can’t entrust me with anything!” - this is how another client cried, worried about her daughter’s forty minutes late for the state exam. She wanted to do everything right: to help...