These small steps help me nurture virtues within myselfpërkthyer

Anna MASLOVA

When I hear the word "virtue," I imagine a tiny sprout or even a seed. But how can I grow trees of virtues within myself? What can I do to achieve this?

Sometimes from acquaintances I hear the opposition between psychology and spiritual life. As if one needs to either pray, fast, hope in God, or use psychological methods. I believe that these are two wings helping us reach our goal.

For example, I am quite irritable and impatient by nature. Especially when my two children do not listen. And what helps me is a simple exercise: when I feel myself boiling over, I notice my breathing. I take a deep breath—then exhale—and repeat this several times. And between my irritation and reaction, there appears space for choice. I can yell or act differently, more calmly and wisely. Thus, I gradually cultivate patience.

Humility is harder for me. Some cases are contentious: when to submit, accept what is happening, and when firmly say: "No, this cannot happen with me"?

Meditation on the words of the Optina Elders helps me: "... In all my words and deeds guide my thoughts and feelings. In all unforeseen circumstances do not let me forget that everything is given by Thee."

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